You know that girl at every party, work space, or friend group who seems to have the “it” factor. She has the ability to talk, laugh, and flirt effortlessly with anyone. You say to yourself, “How does she do it?” Or maybe you are blessed to be that girl. She has a certain “Je Ne Sais Quoi” ― that certain, “I don’t know what makes her so special, she just is.” But just because this trait is so admired does not mean it’s impossible. Anyone has the ability to be the most admired in the room with the right tools and mindset.
-Amber Lyons
1. “TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE”
This does seem to contradict with the above introduction; however, a reason why “that girl” is so well liked is because she is true to herself. She knows who she is and isn’t afraid express it to the fullest. As William Shakespeare states, “To thine own self be true”.
2. STOP TRYING SO HARD, BE CONFIDENT
Be confident, but confidence cannot be faked — it is earned. Therefore, you must read, become well read in current events, and be an expert in your field. This will shine outwardly in your persona.
3. JUST RELAX
Another reason “that girl” is so lovable is because she carries a calm, relaxed energy. This makes others around her feel at ease, which draws others closer to her.
4. DON’T BE AN ATTENTION HOG
“That girl” receives attention from all. This is not because she chases that attention but it comes naturally through her positive energy. Be inclusive to others. Let them know you truly appreciate them, and see them on an equal playing field as yourself.
5. WORK ON BECOMING YOUR BEST SELF
Not only focus on being yourself, but be the best version of yourself. Constantly improve whether it’s through dress, work ethic, habits, or personality. Never stop trying to to be the best you.
6. BE GENUINELY INTERESTED IN OTHERS
Talk about yourself less, and ask that other person more questions. Whether we like to admit it or not, we enjoy talking about ourselves. Therefore, if you can allow that person talk and you seem genuinely interested in what he or she is saying, others will want to socialize with you more often. So, its important give eye contact and…
7. SMILE
The best way to win anyone over and make them feel special is giving a genuine smile. It’s far easier to influence a person with a smile then with a default face.
8. READ AND MEDITATE ON DALE CARNEGIE’S “HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE”
This time-tested bestseller is the perfect guide to ultimate success in the reader’s personal and business life. Be sure to keep a notebook when reading though to easily look back at the amazing points and accurately apply it to your life. The best chapter about this book tells us why there is no point in arguing for the sake of being right- everyone loses. Read more:
13 comments
Hi Steph ,
If there was ever a posted I needed in my life this is it. Hahahaa something I find useful although I think I am guilty of being an attention hog cringe ! Xxx
I love how to win friends and influence people. Great book. I think the biggest thing is to be yourself and realize that it’s okay if not everyone likes you.
This is so highly encouraging. I wish every woman could read this article! We need reminders from time to time of our worth.
Great tips – I think sometimes we get in our own little worlds and don’t necessarily consider how we are portraying ourselves to others. Smiling is such a big thing!
I’d love to read Dale Carnegie’s book! These are really great tips. I think you nailed it with number one – to thine own self be true. If we do that, then we’re being our most authentic self and that is infectious to those around us!
I love this post! I’m passing this along to several girls who will benefit from your words of wisdom!
great post filled with wisdom! these tips can really be applied to all aspects of life!
Ha ha …. so you are saying to be aware of the “resting bitch face”. It is true that we judge people the second we notice them and if they look crabby or angry we are immediately put off. Smiling and being friendly are huge!
I guess I can’t be that kind of girl because I really hate the attention that comes with popularity. I like to stay in a corner in a room full of people not be the center of attention. But I agree with being genuinely interested in other people and I can say people really love to talk about themselves. I do too. :))
those are great tips to being a more likable person. I feel that if you are genuine in all your actions that this comes off as being an honest person which people will be attracted and gravitate toward. It is true to know thy self to show confidence and acceptance, and when you accept yourself you can also accept others for who they are and that helps a person become more likable too! I like that you added relaxing as that shows contentment and being in the moment which is sought after too! great write up!
And we all should remember to smile more because it makes for a more welcoming place on earth, and lucky for us they’re contagious! ; )
This is great! We all have those people in our lives that we are drawn to/are just likeable. They absolutely have all of these qualities. I want to read that book now.
These are very good tips. To be honest, I have given up on pleasing people and I would rather just be myself. Somehow, that has won me friends that I can keep for the rest of my life! It’s really good to find people that you can be yourself around.
Great tips! I’ve read How to Win Friends and Influence People a few times now! Although, I still need to work on talking less about myself. I’m a bit self-obsessed, I guess, but it’s a work in progress.